Recent events in my life have provided an important reminder: don’t let others determine your value.
As some readers will be aware, I have been looking for a job recently. As a recent immigrant to Canada, my situation is a bit different from your typical job seeker. Despite having a Bachelor degree and close to 3 years experience in my chosen industry, I have had trouble convincing some employers to take me on at the level I want without “Canadian experience”.
When the first potential employer told me I would need to settle for an entry level position, I paid little attention. After hearing this for the third time, I started to fear this would be the case. So last week when I was offered an entry level position, I came very close to accepting it.
Also last week I interviewed for my ideal position – one that is both well paid and will advance my career forwards. Yesterday I was told I have the job.
I would love to say that I never stopped believing in myself, but that isn’t true. After being told on multiple occasions that I would need to start at the bottom and gain some Canadian experience, I started to believe this. In retrospect, I wish I had remembered my true capabilities and never gotten stuck entertaining doubt in my mind.
The more I think about it, the more I think this story can apply to many areas of life. For example, many people are trapped in unhappy relationships. Why they don’t leave can be complicated, but one potential reason is that they have lost their sense of worth and forgotten they deserve better. When someone else questions your own perceived worth or value, whether directly with words or indirectly by their actions, it is easy to fall victim to believing them.
So to sum things up, the best judge of your talents, abilities, value, and worth should always be you (except if you are one of those “singers” in American Idol who seems to have no idea that they can’t sing). For this reason, don’t let another person negatively influence how you see yourself. Oh, and wish me well for my new job :) .