Alana Mbanza

Alana Mbanza is a freelance writer who has dreamed of sharing the transformative power of words since childhood. Even more than a writer, Alana strives to be an active agent of creation, choosing to see and create life through the lens of love. Alana currently lives in Chiang Mai, Thailand and provides writing and coaching services to those who seek to create lives of love and fulfillment. Follow her on Twitter or visit her website.

How Your Parents Might be Sabotaging Your Relationships & What To Do About It


Attachment theory was something I learned about as an undergrad in psychology; a concept that was studied, memorized for the test and discarded from memory shortly afterwards. I never thought the term would have any real relevance in my own life.

My “aha moment” occurred during a wellness retreat in Northern New Mexico when I realized that my relationship with my mother has been a powerful influence on my interactions with men. My mother!? Really? And all this time I thought my “daddy issues” were the source of all problems in my romantic relationships!