Live your life your way. Isn’t that what we all want? Yet how many of us can actually say we do? Doing the ‘Right Things’ For many years I certainly couldn’t. I lived my life fitting in: doing what …
You know you want to change, right? But you don’t know where to start. You may find yourself thinking… “There are so many paths I could take and I don’t know how to choose.” “I hardly have enough time …
At 20, I was 280lbs (20 stone/127kg). I was desperately lonely and hated looking at myself in the mirror – I knew I wasn’t the person looking back. I was regularly insulted by random strangers and didn’t have the confidence to do the things I really wanted to.
Between the ages of 20 and 21, I lost over 8 stone and then went on to lose more – in total, dropping half my body weight – 140lbs (10 stone/ 63kg). And I’ve kept it off.
Are you impatient for change? I’m not surprised. We live in a society that first tells us we are not enough and then teaches us that change is easy, quick and available right now.
We’re bombarded by quick-fixes, and we reach for them: medicine that’ll get us back on our feet again; the shiny car that’ll solve all our problems; the must-read book that will reveal a new us and the higher paying job that’ll turn the world from black to gold. Society tells us it knows how to fix us. And we want to believe it – it’s easier to absolve responsibility for ourselves and our lives, than have to deal with the fact that we hurt, we long and that’s messy and might take time and trouble to sort out.
How do you feel when you look at your life right now – how your day has been lived, the way you look, the things you’ve done and are doing, where you are, the people you’re around, the life you’ve laid, the thoughts that surround you?
If there are things you want to change in any part of your life there’s something you need to know.
And it’s not pretty: Change isn’t for everyone. Change isn’t easy.
Were you one of those kids who was always told off for looking out of the window at school? I wasn’t. I was usually looking at the teacher.
You see, I’ve never been a natural dreamer. Dreaming wasn’t part of my upbringing. Security and down-to-earth practicality were. Dreaming was one of those indulgent, ‘waste of time’ activities.
Thing are different now though. Now I know that dreaming is one of the most powerful activities I can engage with.