Running from Change

running from change

“I am not defined by my past instead I am fueled by it.”

I was once a little girl lost, filled with feelings such as frustration, loneliness, confusion and defeat. All I could see was my many mistakes, failures, weaknesses not to mention the obstacles in my way. To put it plainly I was stuck, exceedingly stuck.

A way out…

Well, I didn’t see a way out for a long time. I felt constrained and confined by my life. I had all but settled and accepted that was my lot. That was how I would live out the rest of my life in a nutshell. There I would be focusing on my weaknesses, my mistakes, and all the obstacles in my way day after day, year after year, decade after decade.

But then something happened that changed my perspective. Something happened that allowed me to see my options. Something happened that made me realize there was more to me than all that negative I had been focusing on. Something happened that made me feel that the pain of change would be worth it. Up until this point, I resisted change. I loathed it and if I had any say in the matter I wasn’t going anywhere near its sight.

So what happened to change my perspective? What happened to get me to consider creating change? It was something roughly the size of a pea. Actually, it wasn’t a something it was a someone. I found out I was expecting a child. This was such an exciting shock. You see this good news did not automatically change my perspective. I am a bit hard headed and it typically takes more than that for me to truly see what’s staring me in the face.

But as the months went by something inward began to change. My mind began to think about the environment I desired to raise my child in. The kind of life I wanted to give her the kind of life that was healthy and the kind of life that would pour amazing amounts of love, positivity, and life into her soul.

The hard truth was that was not the current state of my life or my environment. This is the point where a definite change of direction began spinning its webs in my mind. I didn’t take any radical action in the early stages, though. I let it swirl around in my mind for a while. Then I determined it was time to have a serious conversation with my then fiance about our relationship and how I was no longer playing along with his view of life. Our conversation seemed to be a productive one but I knew time would tell if things were going to change.

One thing in my life remained constant and that was with time his actions would tell me the opposite of his words. With time it became clearer to me that this life I wanted wasn’t going to be a thing. That is, it wasn’t going to happen if I was waiting on someone else. It would only happen if I got up and began creating it.

So when my daughter was a wee four-months-old and having been born eleven weeks early I began creating that life I wanted for my daughter and I. Her and I headed out on a nine-hour drive to Texas with my dad who was pulling my 2001 Chevy Cavalier filled with our clothes, pictures, sentimental items and baby toys.

Becoming a single mom is far from glamorous. The struggle is real as they say but it’s also optional. I can’t tell you how it all worked out because we are only six years in. But I can tell you I don’t regret that decision. These past six years have been filled with their fair share of difficult times and yet they have been amazingly good to us as well. Our life is far more amazing than I could ever have dreamed of back then.

Create the change inside of yourself that you’ve been aching for. I’ll warn you it’s a journey not so much as a destination but a beautiful one at that.

Do you feel like you need to take an action to create change in your life? If so, what is the first action you can take? If you’ve already done this please share what change you made.

running from change

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8 thoughts on “Running from Change”

  1. What a compelling story Staci! Congrats on changing your perspective. Now the focus of your future and the future of your daughter will be filled with prosperity and abundance. God bless you!

    1. Thank you, Karen.

      I receive that and hold it true in my heart. God has and continues to bless me in ways I never dreamed of. He is always faithful.

      God bless you and all the lives you impact daily!

  2. What a fabulous way to share your courage. I love that we do have a choice in every moment to make things different than they are! Bless you and your child and the life you are creating!

    1. Hey Tracy.

      Thank you so much for reading and sharing your thoughts with us here in the comments.

      Isn’t it amazing and comforting to know that we HAVE a CHOICE to make a change?!? Thank you for your blessings I send the same to you and your family.

  3. What a heart-felt story…I’m sorry to hear that you couldn’t work it out with your then fiancé…and well done for the courage to persevere since. Hopefully you will achieve your goals this year (and more;-) Thanks for sharing

    1. Hi Julian. Thanks for reading.

      Everything works out for our good and this is something I truly believe. That relationship did not work out but I’ve since met and married an amazing man who treats my daughter and I great. I’ve achieved many of my goals and I’m reaching for me.

      Many blessings to you. Here is to a year filled with abundance in your life.

  4. when I want to change something I’ve learned to just go for it like jumping in a cold pool right away. Thinking about change is only useful when visualizing, otherwise only by doing so something will change its direction.

    1. Fenne, love this, just jump in the pool already!! Totally, if we are truly serious about making a change we can’t just sit there and think about it we MUST jump into ACTION.

      Thanks so much for sharing this with us.

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