Do not dwell in the past; do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. – Buddha For many, the act of letting go of the past can be daunting. It took me a […]
True justice is paying only once for each mistake How often do we overlook the above aphorism as we repeatedly revisit past mistakes, injuries, and confrontations? There are times I lie sleepless and recall arguments I had with
What matters in life is not what happens to you but what you remember and how you remember it. – Gabriel Garcia Marquez It’s a good thing that time heals all wounds because if it didn’t I wouldn’t
You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view… Until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it. ― Harper Lee, To Kill a Mockingbird Every year when my mother’s
True forgiveness is when you can say, ‘Thank you for that experience.’ ― Oprah Winfrey I grew up as the “Daddy’s girl”. The bond my dad and I formed is something I held dear to my heart even
Have you ever seen a Chinese Finger Puzzle? They’re those little tubes of interwoven paper that look harmless enough. Usually, the gig goes like this:
Your friend hands you the Chinese Finger Puzzle and instructs you to insert your index fingers into each end. So you do. Next, with a mischievous grin, your friend tells you to take your fingers out of the tube. Puzzled (pun intended) as to why this might be so hard, you try to pull your fingers out.
But you can’t. The tube has tightened around your fingers.
No, it isn’t some trick and no it isn’t some life changing product. Its something that we all are capable of doing but often choose not to do or choose to hold on to until it begins to consume us.
What is it?
It sounds so plain. So plain and overstated that you may want to stop reading, but I urge you to read on.
I am a critic. To some degree, we all are. We criticize our co-workers when they do a bad job. We get upset when our friends don’t come to our aid. We lament that our family doesn’t understand who we have become. It can be particularly hard to forgive someone else if they have done a terrible wrong against you. Relationships suffer, loneliness ensues, and it takes a lot of time to heal these wounds.
But even harder than forgiving someone else, we struggle to forgive ourselves.